Jason Voorhees Saved My Social Life

As a child in the 80s and 90s, I had a clear-cut vision of what adulthood was. Adults read big books written by towering intellects. They watched sophisticated cinema made by auteurs. They discussed complex ideas and social issues over dinner and drinks, drifting between politics, history, and literature. They looked for intellectual challenges and sought self-betterment, a profusion of novel experiences and imaginings perpetually broadening their frame of reference. Adult potential was boundless.

Then I became an adult, and I must confess I was a little disappointed.

In social situations, I met people in their thirties who read young adult fiction, if they read at all. Their shelves were filled with Ninja Turtles and GI Joe action figures, not books. Their notion of “cinema” consisted entirely of superhero movies, Star Wars, Harry Potter, and Transformers. George Lucas and Michael Bay were their “auteurs.”

Video games were all-important, too, with Final Fantasy, Legend of Zelda, Super Mario, and Street Fighter factoring heavily into dinner-party discussions. Pokémon came up frequently in several friend groups, and not just those composed of self-identifying geeks.

When groups ruminated at gatherings, they did so over plot points of the Star Wars sequel trilogy (The Rise of Skywalker prompted particularly passionate debate). The most burning social issue I ever heard discussed involved supposedly “woke” casting decisions in the latest iterations of the aforementioned intellectual properties. With respect to new experiences, my friends and acquaintances were content with perpetual reboots, reimaginings, and requels of their childhood favorites.

In short, everyone had franchises they fancied and licensed characters they loved. In any given friend group, these IPs became nothing less than totemic for most members. One could always find the “Ninja Turtles Guy” or the “Hermione Granger Gal”; the “Street Fighter Dude” and the “Pokémon Moll” were never too far away. They could all talk breathlessly about their beloved franchise, ever able to share new thoughts and speculations about prospective reboots while lamenting previous ones.

Many people my age couldn’t be held down to one license. Instead, they had multiple totems to which they gave their love and devotion. Their discussions drifted seamlessly between Avengers and Star Wars and Turtles and Final Fantasy XIV. The references disoriented me, and I felt like I was drowning. Virtually everyone identified with a diverse array of licenses. The associated imagery decorated their phones, clothing, and key rings. Licensed baubles and tchotchkes dangled from numerous parts of their person. They bought stuffies of Mario and Sonic and Pikachu for their offspring and for themselves. For Halloween, they sent their children as the cutest IPs and dressed themselves and their spouses as complementary characters.

I, meanwhile, had IP envy.

It seemed like everyone had their licensed-character familiars except for me. In social situations, conversation would make its inevitable turn to these cherished franchises, and I could only stammer. I’d seen Star Wars and thought it was okay, but I couldn’t discourse on it. I’d played with Ninja Turtles as a child but had forgotten the principal characters’ names. I enjoyed a few rounds of Street Fighter on occasion but had few cogitations on the technical nuances of the gameplay system. I was wholly uninterested in pursuing Pokémon in public as a grown man, and that made me feel like a weirdo.

In the meantime, I watched these fans of manifold licenses advance in their careers, buy houses, and beget children, becoming productive members of society. Yet I was on the outside looking in. I was still trying to make a life by reading big books about non-licensed, original characters and thinking through social issues unrelated to the casting of Hollywood blockbusters. I had nothing tangible to show for it. All told, I was lost in a naive and outmoded vision of adulthood from my childhood.

At the nethermost depths of my gloom, I made a desperate attempt to turn my gaze backward, seeking to dredge up my childhood. Consigned to twisted bedding, I tossed and turned from noon to night, never sleeping, trying to scry into the murky waters of my ancient past. My childhood, I found, had sunk too far away and was fathomless, so I could not pull it back to the surface.

I could, however, see faint traces of my adolescence in the middle depths, and in subsequent reminiscences upon my pubescence, hope reemerged. The fog of past decades parted, and an image rose up from below.

Shooting from the deep came a hockey mask.

Jason Voorhees had come to save me.

As a teenager, I loved the Friday the 13th films. Their promise of violence and brief nudity had consistently captivated my attention. The lakeside setting made for an instant vacation. The teenage party atmosphere spoke to a more promising social configuration (certainly more entertaining than the adult milieu). Rewatching these films as a grown-up, I realized I had not only uncovered an aquifer of nostalgia, but I had found what I needed most: a totemic license of my own.

From that point on, social gatherings became coming-out parties for me, in that I’d advertise myself as a Friday the 13th fan. In my Friday the 13th hoodie, hat, and custom-made sweatpants, I was loud and proud. Going forward, all the Ninja Turtle Guys and Pokémon Molls would know that I was the Friday the 13th Guru. In mixed company, I would reverently take my turn confessing my fanaticism. With that breathlessness of the true fan, I would speculate about potential sequels and castigate entries of the series I found off-putting (e.g. Parts 8 and X). I would fluently spew all manner of Friday the 13th minutiae (or “lore”, as we fans so loftily refer to it), ranging from kill counts in each entry to trivia about filming locations and production schedules. Then I would yield back and make way for the next person so that they could testify to their own personal license-bound experiences. This is socialization.

Truth be told, few of my friends and acquaintances had ever screened a Friday the 13th movie. If they had, it was probably watched ironically. Understandably, the Friday the 13th films struck them as rather quaint and unsophisticated compared to the billion-dollar box office bonanzas for which they live. But now I at least had something they could begin to understand — an obsession with a recognizable IP — and so I was no longer a social zero. I could now float confidently on the periphery of their friend-groups. Jason was my life-raft.

It didn’t matter that most of my acquaintances were too preoccupied with Marvel movies and Star Wars sequelae to hear what I was saying. Nor did it matter that their attention would quickly shift when I gave unsolicited descriptions of Tom Savini’s gore effects in Parts I and IV. I could nevertheless sense that the fellow Millennials I met at parties were starting to respect me, because I too had a license that I loved and lived for. Surely, they could perceive that I was as dedicated to Friday the 13th and Jason as they were to Pokémon and Pikachu or Marvel and Deadpool or any number of other prime licenses, and they could appreciate that. We were all in this overdetermined IP morass together, after all. Finally, they could see me as a true adult in their Millennial mold.

After all that, I still read big books, but now it’s the stately Crystal Lake Memories volume, supplemented by the hard-to-find novelizations of the early Friday the 13th movies. I even bought up Berkley Books’ line of young adult Friday the 13th novels from the 90s. I have cleared my bookshelves of Updike and Sartre to make room for Jason figurines from each episode in their original boxes, not to mention a trio of his Funko Pops (hockey-masked, baghead, and 8-Bit versions). Altogether, they form a household shrine, giving praise to Jason’s salvational powers in the social realm.

Now, fellow middle-class Millennials can come to my place and feel at ease knowing that they are in the home of one of their own. Soon, I may be able to host my own parties, with my guests resting assured they will be swaddled in the comfortable clutter of overpriced licensed memorabilia. Though they may not watch the Friday the 13th movies, they will be soothed by the presence of the IP, even if it is a less familiar one. While the hockey-masked killer Jason may be intimidating to those uninitiated to the franchise, he’s a lot less threatening than the possibility of encountering new and original ideas.

The Author, ready for a night on the town

So if you find yourself adrift in the Millennial experience of pop culture, and you are still trying to take consolation in philosophy, literature, and cinema, here is my advice: rediscover a franchise from your childhood and go all in. Put down the books and the art films and pick up every product bearing your beloved childhood license. And once you’ve done that, find another franchise, and then another, always diving deeper and deeper therein. Each one will anchor you more securely in the zeitgeist. Soon enough, you’ll be fully submerged in nostalgia for your childhood, making you a full-fledged Millennial adult.

[This article originally appeared on Medium.com.]